8.12.2009

No Expectations

Do you ever go into an event with no expectations and then leave thinking that was the most fun you've had in a really long time, maybe even all year?
Then you go to another event, one you've been so excited about for a long time and then end up not having as much fun as you expected, then you feel let down or disappointed?

This is my friends is my fear about my wedding. I'm scared that because I've built this day up so much in my head for the past 20 years 8 months I will be let down, or it won't be all I expected it to be or I won't have as much fun as I thought I would. I don't know why I've been letting this pesky thought bother me so much the past week or so but it has. Maybe it's the fact that my wedding is 2.5 weeks away or the fact that I had a wedding nightmare last night, involving me missing my wedding and reception because my bridesmaid wouldn't get dressed and no one would drive me.

I felt comforted by the fact that when I was stalking the www.weddingbee.com boards a girl wrote an honest post about her wedding day not being the happiest day of her life and one girl responded with this which I think is perfect, "If your wedding day is the happiest day of your entire life then you really have nothing left to look forward to in life." I couldn't agree more, I believe that the wedding industry has built us to believe that our wedding day must be the most magical, special, perfect day in our entire lives, leading us to forget why we're getting married in the first place. It's not just about that 1 day it's about starting a whole new chapter of your life with someone you love, honor, and cherish, a new special chapter that will hopefully bring you many days that you can deem the happiest day of your life.

So I plan to go into my wedding with no expectations for it to be perfect or magical or the best day of my entire life but more for it to be a grand celebration of love, family, and friends mixed in with a few glasses of champagne and some Don't Stop Believing....




Off to clean and organize-we're having house guests tomorrow night then Friday we're all traveling up to the border of western MD/PA for a wedding this weekend. I'll be back Sunday with pics and updates:)

11 comments :

  1. everything will be fine and will go as planned! do you have everything finished?
    Hope all is well!

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  2. I think your wedding should be 'one' of the best days of your life. I agree you need things to look forward too.

    Your day is sooo close...I have 2 months!!

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  3. That's definitely the right attitude to have! It will save you in the end! And you're so right! What about your children being born? Or what about our 25th wedding anniversary? A special vacation? Seriously, my wedding was a blast. But it was one day! And we all deserve to have more than one day of our lives that ranks up there as amazing!

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  4. Great attitude, and I cannot imagine it being anything less than wonderful. You'll be married in the end, which is what is most important.

    Plus, if there's a glass of pinot in your hand, and Journey blarin' out the speakers, I'm sure you'll have a ball ')

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  5. I'm going to be super honest with you. My wedding day was amazing, but it was definitely not the superfantasticamazingperfectwonderful fairy tale day that I had hyped it up to be. But my marriage? Even better than expected. Relax and enjoy it, it all goes by so fast!

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  6. My first wedding was great, but my second wedding was even better. And it wasn't only because I married an asshole the first time. ;) It's because I knew, by then, that it wasn't all about the wedding. And 4 years later, I STILL think about how wonderful my day was. (But I think about the birth of my son even more!)

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  7. No matter how it turns out your day will be perfect because its your wedding day! I had this HUGE fantasy of how I expected our day to be and it was nothing at all how I had pictured it in my head; it poured non-stop, my veil fell off as I was walking down the aisle, I turned my head when Ryan was trying to feed me the cake and I ended up with frosting in both of my eyes...it can't all be perfect but that's what makes it so special and at the end of it all, it's just you and your husband:)

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  8. of course you're going to worry since it's such a big day, but it will be a GREAT day nonetheless...you'll be surrounded by your friends and family and being married to someone you love with all your heart. I know it's hard, but just enjoy it...not just the day, but the journey to the day :) it will be fabulous!

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  9. i agree with the wedding bee girl.

    also, don't wedding nightmares suuuck? i get them sometimes and it's awful!

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  10. I completely understand how you are feeling-- I felt the same way in the weeks leading up to my wedding. It's going to be an amazing day and at the end of it you will be married-- that is the best part. Even if everything were to go wrong (which it won't!) you will still be married to the love of your life and heading to spend a week in paradise with him.

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